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Love has long been a muse for metaphor. Authors, poets, and songwriters have crafted countless expressions to describe the enchantment of romance, from Elvis Presley’s “Burning Love” to Washington Irving’s poetic comparison of love to “the rosy cloud in the morning of life.” Yet, before any two hearts can tie the proverbial knot, one pivotal question must be asked, or better yet, “popped.” 

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The idiom “pop the question” is a playful way to describe the act of proposing marriage. It’s deeply ingrained in modern romance culture, featuring in rom-coms and sitcoms, jewelry ads and casual conversation. And while this widespread phrase might seem like a modern invention that has become woven into everyday English, it’s been in use for centuries.

According to the Oxford English Dictionary, an early recorded use of “pop the question” dates to 1573, in A Hundreth Sundrie Flowres, the first published work of English poet George Gascoigne: “At the last Pergo popped this question vnto him.” In Gascoigne’s time, “popping the question” wasn’t strictly reserved for marriage proposals. More commonly, it meant to ask a question abruptly or unexpectedly; “pop” was metaphorical, much like the shock of a banging door or the pop of a popcorn kernel.

By the 18th century, the phrase had taken on a romantic meaning, as evidenced in the New England Courant, one of Boston’s earliest newspapers: “I should be very glad to know your Sentiments whether it would be improper for the Lady to pop the Question first.” By the mid-19th century, other uses had faded, and the phrase almost exclusively referred to a proposal.

The idiom’s enduring popularity makes perfect sense: Marriage proposals are marked by a buildup of anticipation, suspense, and, often, surprise. Much like the celebratory pop of a champagne cork, this phrase marks a pivotal moment that can take us by surprise in the best way possible.

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Rachel Gresh
Freelance Writer
Rachel is a Washington, D.C.-based freelance writer. When she's not writing, you can find her wandering through a museum, exploring a new city, or advocating the importance of the Oxford comma.
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